One of these again!
1. Cassy has written this amazing guide for partners of sexual assault survivors. Even if you’re not one (that you know of), you should read it. Unfortunately, as prevalent as sexual assault is among all genders, you never really know when this advice will come in useful.
2. My friend Sarah on how to talk to people with chronic illnesses (including, but not limited to, mental illnesses). Apparently I’m in an advice-y mood today.
3. Think atheists “shove” atheism “down people’s throats”? Read this.
4. On depressive thoughts, and how they’re a “mind trick.” “Something to remember: when your brain invents stories of things to feel bad about and tells you they’re the cause of the bad feelings, the truth is often that the bad feelings are the cause of the stories.”
5. Another one of those really touching posts about depression.
6. A sex-positive defense of porn.
7. Cliff Pervocracy wrote this great advice column on how to deal with people who act like you owe it to them to make yourself look pretty.
8. Natalie Reed on how cisgender feminists can help include trans* people and perspectives in feminism. But, as usual with her pieces, it’s about so much more than that.
9. Andrew had some very relevant criticism of Skepticon, and there’s a great response from one of the organizers in the comments.
10. Dr. Nerdlove debunks some tired myths about women and casual sex. “In other words: in a culture of slut-shaming, blaming rape victims for their own assault, increasing restrictions on contraception and abortion, a man has to be pretty impressive to make it worth a woman’s time for a fling.”
11. On emotions and their supposed “irrationality.” “What many people who dismiss emotions fail to recognize is that emotions are an extremely important source of information, and are often a way to analyze information very quickly in order to motivate necessary action. In this way, emotions are actually very rational much of the time. Sometimes they come to the wrong conclusion, and sometimes their logic fails, but at root they operate in a logical way: they take an input, analyze how it affects us, and react to protect us.”
Feel free to link to your own writing in the comments section!
Re link #6, in defense of porn, I always thought we need to differentiate between the porn industry and porn itself. There are a lot of problems with the mainstream porn industry, but that’s not a problem that is inherent to pornography, I feel, anyway. Quite clearly,because there are porn production companies that try to combat those problems. (Plus amateur porn, which, I would guess (I don’t have the #’s, so maybe I’m really wrong) is more likely to also avoid some of the common problems in mainstream porn.) I also find the idea that porn is evil to be really, odd, or that it ruins relationships? I mean, what kind of relationships are we talking about? Anything can ruin a relationship, that’s such a vague and meaningless statement, I feel, anyway. But, not my field of expertise so maybe I’m completely off the mark.
As I cannot ever resist an invitation to do a little self-promotion 😉
Readers of Brute Reason might very well enjoy http://fliponymous.wordpress.com/2012/10/13/the-denigration-of-the-feminine/