My friend Seth, who has guest-posted here before (read it, it’s awesome), returns to talk about depression and Buddhism.
Note: The following is a transcript of a speech given at the weekly College Meeting for Worship at Earlham College.
Good afternoon, and thank you all for coming. It means a lot to me that people have come to hear me talk about this.
For my entire adult life, and most of my adolescence, I have struggled with depression.
Sorry to drop the heavy stuff on you right away, but this must be understood if anything is to come of the rest of my talk.
In many ways, I have been very lucky. I have never had to take medication; I know people who have. I know people who would not be with us today if they hadn’t had medication. I know people who are no longer with us. I have attended memorials for those people in this very meeting house.
Depression is a terrible, terrible disease.
Other diseases ravage your body; depression ravages your mind. It tears away at you will, your hope, at everything that makes you, you.
Let me be clear about this: depression is not sadness. 24/7 sadness would be incredibly obvious to everybody around you. But depression is much more insidious than that, and in my experience, it often takes your friends and loved ones by surprise when it crops up.
So what is depression, then?
Well, I obviously can’t speak for everybody, but here’s my experience:
Depression is being trapped in a slow, steady downward spiral of negative thoughts. Depression is thinking that the biggest mistake you made all day was getting out of bed. Depression is the feeling that you’re slowly falling to pieces, and the inability to pick yourself back up and put yourself back together. Depression is the irrational yet inescapable idea that your life means nothing to anybody, and that nothing would change if you just suddenly vanished from off the face of the earth.
The worst thing about depression, though, is that it devours the very resource that is necessary to fight it: your willpower. Sure, maybe you know that you should try talking about it to a friend you trust, or make an appointment to see a councilor, and that might help. But how in the world are you going to do that when you’re lucky just to have the ability to pry yourself out of bed in the morning?
All this is very important to understand. Partly for my story, because this is what I mean when I say that I was depressed. But also because you may well meet somebody suffering from depression in the future, or maybe you already know somebody who is. It will help both of you if you have at least some idea of what they’re going through.
But back to my question, because for far too many people, it isn’t rhetorical. How do you fight something that destroys your ability to fight?
Like the experience of depression, the key to overcoming it is different for each individual person. For me, the key was faith, which is why I’m here talking to you all today.
It may surprise some of those here that know me when I say that I consider myself a deeply religious person. Part of that is probably because I’m not extremely outspoken about my religious beliefs, and when I do talk about them I tend to frame them as a general philosophy about the world rather than a spiritual belief. Part of that is probably a cultural tendency to assume that “religious” means Christian, or at least Abrahamic, which I am neither. Nor is the religion I wound up devoting myself to the same one I was brought up with. Nevertheless, I consider myself religious because my personal philosophy and sense of morality are, if not directly taken from my religion’s teachings, very much in sync with them.
Allow me to explain.